There is wisdom in asking for help

There is wisdom in asking for help.

I came across this quote yesterday and wanted to share it. It says, 

Asking for help has never been one of my strongest attributes. Frankly, in some instances, I'd rather risk failure than to ask someone to give me a hand. Obviously, my ego is in control here, but feelings and thoughts around inadequacy tend to rear its ugly head making it even more difficult to raise my hand for help. Also, who really wants to admit they don't know EVERYTHING.

This has been particularly true around my long distance training. When I wanted to get faster or lose those pesky 10 pounds, instead of seeking the help of experts, I'd try to figure it out on my own, using what I thought I knew, but never really making any progress. It left me even more frustrated with myself and ironically enough, the feelings of inadequacy were still very present.

Eventually, I became tired of failing and reached out to people who had more training and expertise than me to help me reach my goals and that would hold me accountable and motivate me to reach the finish line. The truth is, they were excited that I asked for help and didn't judge me for not having all the answers.

Sometimes resetting is asking for help.

I'll often hear women say they want to join Black Girls RUN!, but they need to lose weight before they join their local group or that they need to "get their lives together" before they commit to running.

Let's be honest. You're afraid. Afraid that you might have to confront feelings of inadequacy. Afraid that you might be judged. Afraid to ask for help. 

But, let me assure you that there is nothing to be afraid of. We're just waiting for you to ask for help.

Ashley and I started Black Girls RUN! because we sincerely wanted to help. We wanted to help women reclaim their lives by living a healthy and active lifestyle. We wanted to help women understand their value and self-worth. We wanted to help women, just like you be GREAT!

Yes, sometimes you have to stand alone, but with Black Girls RUN!, there's no need! Turns out there are thousands of other women, just like us, that want to see the state of our community's health improve!  

It's never a bad idea to ask for help when you need it!

So, what will it take for you to raise your hand for help? How can you reset and harness the courage and bravery that I know exists inside of you to take that first step to achieving your goals and intentions for 2017? And most importantly, how can the BGR! Nation and I help? Post below with your comments, questions and requests for help! 




Toni Carey
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6 Responses

Doreen K. Cobbs
Doreen K. Cobbs

January 30, 2017

It’s ironic that I stumbled across this BGR message about asking for help while perusing my Spam inbox.

I went through hell in 2016 and am still struggling to become self-sufficient after a nasty divorce. I decided last year that I had to ask for help and to accept help when offered.

Doreen

Tanasa
Tanasa

January 25, 2017

Thank you for those words of encouragement, I often struggle with asking for help in various areas of my life. I would love to join a BGR group, I live in Morristown,NJ and have not been about to find a group in this area…please help :)

Shirley Gardner
Shirley Gardner

January 25, 2017

I had surgery 11 months ago and I want to start back walking but I don’t want to overdo it. I live in Dallas Texas and I need a BGR in my area. HELP!!!!

Annette
Annette

January 25, 2017

I live in Fredericksburg, Va. noticed their is no BGR in my area. Please advise. I would love to become apart of the group.
Annette

Cynthia G Thompson
Cynthia G Thompson

January 24, 2017

This is so me! God please give me the courage to ask for help! I see me asking for help as a sign of weakness. Also when I ask for help and you are unsure or hesitant to say yes. I’m quick to say I’ll do it myself!

Linette Hosendorf
Linette Hosendorf

January 24, 2017

To God I give the Glory, this what I am going through. thank you

I will begin today

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